Main Fears of Women That You Need to Handle First

The most important sexual organ you possess as a man is your mind. You must use your mental powers to arouse a woman and to handle her objections and fears to get her into bed. In many ways, you’re going to have to talk your way into bed. Before discussing her fears, however, I want to warn you about your own. You cannot have a negative internal dialogue with yourself and all sorts of doubts and negative thoughts racing through your brain when you’re seducing a woman or you will surely sabotage yourself. So don’t allow yourself to dwell upon your fear of rejection, your inadequacies, or any doubts you have about yourself. You must stay positive and expect the best to occur every time you are with a woman. Believe in yourself, relax, and have fun. Women will be less likely to resist any move you make if you are natural and carefree. Like a beautiful young woman once told me, “The fewer a guy’s worries are, usually the more attractive he is.”

Much of the criteria upon which a woman bases her decision on whether or not she is going to give it up revolves around her basic fears. A woman must first be free of any anxiety or fears before she will invite you to ravage her. You need to clear away the obstacles to the bedroom. Understand a woman’s fears and you can leverage a woman’s point of view to your advantage.

A woman has three main fears that you need to handle to clear the path to pleasure, ease, and her enjoyment of sex. First, she fears that she is not as beautiful as she needs to be, or could be, or should be. Women are always worried about their weight, the size of their breasts, their wardrobe, and their overall attractiveness. To eliminate these fears of inadequacy, tell her how beautiful she is. Tell her what you think of her skin, her neck, her legs, and especially her eyes. But don’t mention her breasts unless they’re perfect and not until you have already caressed them. Complement her about her clothes, her eye makeup, her jewelry, and never, NEVER critize her or belittle her in any way when you’re making your move toward the bedroom.

Her second biggest fear is her fear of abandonment. She needs to feel that after you make love to her that you are still going to be with her in the future. Reassure her that you are now a part of her life. In your pre-bedroom conversation, tell her how much you look forward to spending time with her in the future, and explain why you can see the two of you together for a long time, and talk about exciting things you will do together over the weeks and months ahead.

The third big fear to handle before getting a woman into bed is her fear of unwanted pregnancy or contracting the AIDS virus. You deal with this fear by broaching the subject of condoms before you get all hot with passion. Most women now days will not have sex with you unless you’re wearing a condom. As a Chinese girlfriend of mine was fond of saying, “No cover wang, no get bang!” Your job is to reassure her ahead of time that you use condoms and that you have a supply of them on hand. Look for ways to talk about the subject of condoms in a non-threatening way. Say something sometime early on like, “I think it’s really important that people use condoms when making love.” Try to word it in a way that uses third party names and references; don’t say ‘you’ like to use condoms don’t you.

How To Create Powerful Personal Ads (Part - 1)

This short article will give you a few decent tips to use in your search for that e-mate - and your move to make her the real thing. First of all lets start with the common mistakes most of us do.

1. - Being boring.

The Ultimate Sin when you're first establishing something with someone new, and it's perhaps never more sinful than when you're doing it via email. If you can bring in the women with a simple pic, fine; but remember - very few of them like going to bed with a man they picture as being uninteresting, and even fewer will bother to follow up those first emails if they begin thinking you're too unimaginative to think of anything to say.

Firstly, the 'subject' heading. Never use a line like 'Hi there!', or, if you're answering an ad, a line like 'I saw your ad'. Remember that you're probably competing with hundreds of guys writing her if she sounds interesting at all, and even more if she's posted a pic and looks even reasonably attractive. To tell the truth, she'll probably be up to her pretty little ass in 'Hi there's and 'Saw your ad's; one more probably won't get her opening your email before anyone else's.

If fact, this writer knows of a number of women - attractive ones - who use the ads and insist that they instantly delete any messages starting off with such a common headline. As one said, 'If he doesn't even care enough to come up with anything interesting to say now, how can he come up with anything interesting later on?' So here, the 'subject's real use is to seperate you immediately from the pack. How do you do that? Well, it's not a bad idea to play off of her own subject heading if you're answering an ad. For instance, if she has an ad with the subject heading 'Looking for fun Romeo,' you can use something like, 'Romeo found - click for fun.' Admittedly this heading is very cheesy, but it's fun and separates you from everyone else. Most importantly, it shows her that you actually took the time to really read her ad; something they'll feel most guys never took the time to do.

If you're cruising the Net for any kind of action, the most important thing to remember is to cater to your audience. If you're going to portray yourself as a stud in an ad or a steamy singles chat room, don't be too surprised if you get jumped online by women who don't want anything more than a chance to experience what you say you can give them (yes, in this day and age of online anonymity, they will find you - trust us); and don't be surprised if they immediately ask for a pic. After all, Mr. Bigshot, you're the stud - prove yourself. If you want something more, say so a consistent tone that tells women who it is you're after.

After all, what can any woman hope to give you other than what you ask for? Your tone, and where you are on the Net, determines your audience and your potential dates. If you're hard into classical music, go hang out in those chat rooms and make friends there. Use your most passionate hobbies and preferences to find people that are deeper than the usual chat areas or singles web pages. Try checking out those hobbies online and feel free to join message boards. Just keep in mind that what you write (and where you write it) will determine who you catch.

2. - Lying.

Hey, we all pad that resume when were just starting out; but there's a difference between making things sound as well as they possibly can and outright lying. While it's certainly fun to pretend that you're actually slim with an athletic build while you're really not (or if you used to be slim and athletic like the man talked about above), the truth will eventually come back to haunt you. Horrible, horrible truth; there's no way to get around it. The point is to be reasonably honest at the beginning of any relationship - at least enough so that you don't have to explain how you put on 70 pounds and gave up deep sea diving in the two hours you spent traveling to get to her. Use your head. She's expecting to see and spend time with the man she's been writing emails to; make sure the emails reasonably fit who she meets.

If you're still thinking of pushing that 'truth' envelope, just remember that this thing can flap two ways; she can be lying to you. That little girl barely out her teens can be a man just out prison, and very lonely. So being honest with her allows you to insist on the same honesty. Again, we understand the desire to 'pad the resume' a bit. Women do it, too; everyone does. Just make sure your 'padding' doesn't create a myth you can't possibly hope to live up to in real life - unless, of course, neither of you were planning to meet in the first place. But since you're a man, I doubt that 'wishful thinking' will be enough. Keep it in the realm of truth.