It’s fight night! Get out the wine and the pints of low fat ice cream as you prepare for another epic long night of consoling your friend after a fight with her unworthy boyfriend.
At first, the drama in our adult dating relationships actually do help bond female friendships. We have fun talking about our arguments with our boyfriends and our turbulent sex lives.
However, some relationships are full of too much drama and there may be many times you have to hear about or even see in person, your friend harboring fury for their lover and have to experience all the make up and break up stories. When this happens, you find yourself biting your tongue considering all the times she had bit her tongue in regards to your own love life. Although, when it becomes more and more apparent that your friend is with the wrong fella, it gets harder every time to refrain from screaming ‘DUMP HIM NOW!’ from the top of your lungs.
It can be truly exhausting to see your friend in so much misery and pain and it can be even more exhausting when they hardly take your advice into consideration. You can’t help it at first to listen to their tearful plight. However, when the tears have dried up, the hate for their lovers has disappeared and the relationship is miraculously back on track without any serious improvements made, it can make any good friend want to scream and shake their friends especially when you know that they will be arguing sooner than you can update your Facebook wall status.
When you’re really good friends with someone, it’s important to be able to share your honest opinions but only when asked for. Nobody wants to hear anything negative and most women expect their best friends to be their biggest cheerleaders. Sometimes it’s necessary to say the truth especially when they used tough love on you in the past.
Let your friend know that you love them and make them understand how relationships are meant to be enjoyed and they are not things you endure through. Don’t compare your relationship to theirs because no relationship is the same no matter what Sex And The City makes us believe.
Let them know how you pray for their happiness more often than you pray for your own. Let them know that unhealthy relationships should not be dragged on for years and how it’s essential to know that one of the many purposes of our life is to progress and settle. If you can’t do that, watch an episode of Jersey Shore and watch them squirm and cringe when watching Ron and Sammi many fighting sagas.
Will your friend get upset when hearing this? Hell yes, she will! But if she is a good friend, she will realize you have her best interests at heart and she will probably be more annoyed at the fact that what you are saying makes sense in the long run.
After you get out your thoughts, leave the subject alone for good. You are NOT your friend’s relationship guru. You are her friend and if you are her best friend, you will stand by every one of her decisions and choices in her love life, regardless of the fact that you may not agree with them.
We are all responsible for our own decisions and more importantly, our own happiness. Never let drama between relationships affect your long-lasting friendships. It’s just not worth it.