When you’re adults dating and you fall for a friends ex trouble could be brewing. Some people think that dating a friends ex is totally off limits, but that’s not necessarily true.
You like your friends ex, now what? If you’ve fallen for your friends ex, you need to consider a lot of things before moving forward. You need to be certain that your friend’s past lover is also interested in you. You must be certain that they are interested in you, because if you make a move and they turn you down, you could still get your friend mad. You shouldn’t risk damaging your friendship unless it is a sure thing.
How did they break up? Once you’re certain that you both share the same feelings, you need to consider your friends standpoint very carefully. When they broke up, was it your friend that did the dumping or were they the dump-ee. If your friend did the dumping because they were looking to move on, you might be okay. If your friend was the one who was dumped and suffered a lot of pain, you should probably hold up.
Preserving your friendship: The next thing to consider is the state of your friendship. Just how close of friends are you? If the thought of loosing that friend could be too much to bear, then you may have to pass on the romantic opportunity. If the friend isn’t particularly close to, you may find that dating their ex is more valuable to you than your friendship with them.
Pursuing a relationship with the ex: If you decide that you’re going to start dating your friends ex, then you need to be careful about how you handle it. Don’t try to hide it, that will make things far worse. Lying about it will make you look bad to everyone. Pull your friend aside and let or her know what’s going on. Tell your friend that you hope they can understand, but you will also completely understand if they are angry with you. You may want to avoid hanging with your friend as a couple at first. Try and ease your friend into the situation. Hopefully they will be able to move on and you can all come to terms with you and the former dating partner.