Sometimes single people aren’t looking for marriage and just want to date casually with no strings attached. Those people often get accused of being serial daters or players when nothing could be further from the truth. They honestly just aren’t looking to get serious again at that moment. Some may be recovering from a divorce and others are just getting over a serious relationship that ended. They’re not necessarily jaded or angry or anything, they may just not be read to get into anything serious just yet. There’s nothing wrong with these people or their choice to not get too serious. Actually, they’re pretty smart because they’ve figured out what they need and why, and they’re going after it no matter what anyone else thinks about it.
For many of us singles, we’re not interested in getting married again. We would love to have a good romantic relationship, and we’re on all kinds of dating websites looking for just that. We’re just not interested in it turning into marriage. Many of us have been married and divorced, and we’re not interested in doing it again for a lot of reasons. Whether we have been married or not, we’ve all watched friends or co-workers go through horrible divorces, and many of us don’t want to ever go through that. Financially, it could be a dangerous prospect to get married and divorced, and for those of us in our mid-40′s, it’s getting a little late in our lives to be financially devastated by a bad marriage or an even worse divorce. Everyone has seen other people lose half their pension or retirement savings in a divorced when they’re too old to recoup their losses, and many of us that are in that age group are afraid to take that chance.
Meanwhile, many of us also realize that we can have sex and fun without marriage, and probably more sex and fun if we don’t get married. Our serious relationships can be very fulfilling and rewarding without making things permanent. We’re enjoying our lives and having a great time dating and being single. We don’t feel any need for anything more than that. That doesn’t make us bad people or serial daters or anything like that. We’re just people that know what we want.
There are a lot of implications to getting married these days, and many people, male and female, see it as completely unnecessary. Women that have gotten out of bad marriages feel like they would somehow be giving up their freedom again. Some people just enjoy the total freedom of being able to date whomever they want and have sex with whomever they choose at any given moment. Many of us no longer expect our romantic relationships to last forever, and have no problem with that concept. Unfortunately, names like ‘serial dater’ have been invented to pass judgment on those of us who simply want to date without the need for a serious relationship being on the agenda. As long as we’re honest about what we’re looking for, why should we be called derogatory names? Many of us aren’t trying to hurt anyone, we simply enjoy our lives exactly the way they are and want to keep them that way.