I don’t ask women for permission to do things, and I don’t look to them to lead what’s going to happen next. I used to kind of watch what they were doing and take cues
on how to act. Now I do and say what I want and look for cues from her so I know when to bust her balls.
adultfriendfinder registrationI spent a long time learning how to get phone numbers from women only to realize that this wasn’t the same as success. Then, I learned how to get women to come over to my house only to realize that this wasn’t the same as success. I finally realized that I have to lead the way the entire time – just like in ballroom dancing. I have to know where we’re going and lead the way the entire time.
But my most important realization is that THIS IS MY REALITY, AND SHE IS A GUEST – not the other way around. If a woman tries to play a game with me, put me
off, give me an excuse, etc. I start laughing out loud at her. At first, she doesn’t know what’s going on... but then I say something like, “Cummon... what, are you kidding?
Give me a break.”
This tells them that even their little ploys aren’t going to get by my radar – never mind into my reality. I never get upset at them or let them get to me emotionally (this is key, because if they sense that they’ve found a button, they’ll use it over and over again). As my friend Eric once said, “YOU’RE IN MY REALITY NOW.”
Let me point out that when I’m meeting women, I’m almost NEVER thinking about a ‘long-term relationship’ with them in the beginning. If I like them and later they prove to be someone that really amazes me, then this will be a possibility.
My guess is that strong, exceptional, interesting men who are in control of themselves and their realities are as rare for women as super hot women are rare for men. See where I’m going? Said in a different way, “Why do so many men settle for average or worse looking women?”
I think the logic goes both ways. I mean, I know quite a few ass-kicking men – but this is because I’ve literally spent years finding and making friends with them. Most women aren’t lucky enough to run across one. And when they do, they usually mess it up by being a bitch or uninteresting. So they just settle for whatever the best option is at the moment. And they often wind up getting comfortable in the process.
There’s another interesting point that I’ve noticed lately:
Many of the marriages that I know of that have lasted for many years (10+) have something in common: a woman that subtly controls the man. I mean, think about the plot of most romance novels: Woman meets wild man, woman tames man and lives happily ever after with her new well-behaved BOY.
So keep this in mind when you’re interacting with women.
***Because I may be coming off a bit harshly here, I want to mention something. If you could be in the room with me during my interactions with a new woman that I find interesting, you’d most likely be thinking, “This guy is funny as hell... but he’s really pushing it. I mean, he’s on the borderline of saying something that’s just too damn arrogant. But wow, the woman just seems to get more and more into him as this goes on... interesting.” You would NOT be thinking, “Wow, this guy seems to me like a womanizer who’s mean to women.”
I say this so that you understand that all of the techniques that I employ are part of the all-important ‘Character’ that I discussed earlier.
By staying cocky and funny, women will laugh their asses off, get frustrated that you’re not playing to them, and finally crack and show that they like you.
If you’re just a plain old run of the mill jerk, then none of this will work. The ‘assholes’ who get laid usually have an angle (money, fame, whatever) that they mix
with the assholeness.
Mean, self-centered people with no social attractiveness are usually out of luck.
So keep in mind the all-important ingredient: Humour.
NOTHING works for me like humour mixed with arrogance.
I also want to mention once again that I’m very flexible and in many situations, I will begin to do very sweet and thoughtful things for a woman – just on my terms.
And when it comes to sex (***big key here***) I always pay attention and learn what a woman likes. My goal is to be the most fulfilling lover that she’s had. Mix all this up with some special sauce, and you have the recipe for hot women who love to have sex with you and love you as a person as well because you’re interesting to
them.
Remember, women are not linear, logical creatures. If you do things that make sense, they will do things that don’t make any sense at all.
If you do things that don’t make any sense at all, then women will often do what you want them to do.
It’s just that you have to know exactly WHICH things to do that don’t make sense.
Make sense?