Men Tolerant Of Girl-on-Girl Cheating By Other Halves

A study out of the US has found groundbreaking research in which men are much less likely to break up with a cheating dating partner if she cheats on them with another woman, rather than another man.

This is perhaps because the gents are hoping that they could fulfill their adult fantasy and may be able to join their girlfriend and her female counterpart on the side for a steamy threesome romp session.

According to a statement announcing the research, “Men may view a partners homosexual affair as an opportunity to mate with more than one woman simultaneously. These findings are even more remarkable given that surveys show men have more negative attitudes towards homosexuality than women,” said a psychologist on the study, “however, this general trend of men showing lower tolerance for homosexuality than women is reveres in the one situation-female homosexuality.”

After having grilled 700 college students, it was found that men showed a 50 percent likelihood of continuing to date a partner who had hooked up with a lady and only 22 percent likelihood of staying with a woman if she had done the dirty with another man.

Women found homosexuality in their boyfriends less tolerable than indulgence in unsanctioned sex with another girl; though they weren’t as lenient toward any kind of affair.

Women indicated a 29 percent likelihood of continuing to date a boyfriends who had a heterosexual affair and a lower 21 percent likelihood of staying with someone who has had ahomosexual affair.

Dating, No Marriage

Sometimes single people aren’t looking for marriage and just want to date casually with no strings attached. Those people often get accused of being serial daters or players when nothing could be further from the truth. They honestly just aren’t looking to get serious again at that moment. Some may be recovering from a divorce and others are just getting over a serious relationship that ended. They’re not necessarily jaded or angry or anything, they may just not be read to get into anything serious just yet. There’s nothing wrong with these people or their choice to not get too serious. Actually, they’re pretty smart because they’ve figured out what they need and why, and they’re going after it no matter what anyone else thinks about it.

For many of us singles, we’re not interested in getting married again. We would love to have a good romantic relationship, and we’re on all kinds of dating websites looking for just that. We’re just not interested in it turning into marriage. Many of us have been married and divorced, and we’re not interested in doing it again for a lot of reasons. Whether we have been married or not, we’ve all watched friends or co-workers go through horrible divorces, and many of us don’t want to ever go through that. Financially, it could be a dangerous prospect to get married and divorced, and for those of us in our mid-40′s, it’s getting a little late in our lives to be financially devastated by a bad marriage or an even worse divorce. Everyone has seen other people lose half their pension or retirement savings in a divorced when they’re too old to recoup their losses, and many of us that are in that age group are afraid to take that chance.

Meanwhile, many of us also realize that we can have sex and fun without marriage, and probably more sex and fun if we don’t get married. Our serious relationships can be very fulfilling and rewarding without making things permanent. We’re enjoying our lives and having a great time dating and being single. We don’t feel any need for anything more than that. That doesn’t make us bad people or serial daters or anything like that. We’re just people that know what we want.

There are a lot of implications to getting married these days, and many people, male and female, see it as completely unnecessary. Women that have gotten out of bad marriages feel like they would somehow be giving up their freedom again. Some people just enjoy the total freedom of being able to date whomever they want and have sex with whomever they choose at any given moment. Many of us no longer expect our romantic relationships to last forever, and have no problem with that concept. Unfortunately, names like ‘serial dater’ have been invented to pass judgment on those of us who simply want to date without the need for a serious relationship being on the agenda. As long as we’re honest about what we’re looking for, why should we be called derogatory names? Many of us aren’t trying to hurt anyone, we simply enjoy our lives exactly the way they are and want to keep them that way.

How To Compete With Her Vibrator

There comes a time in every couple’s relationship when their sex lives are tested to the max. There is something worse than worrying about your significant other’s ex connecting with them on Facebook. It’s big, pink and most likely battery-operated. If you guessed a woman’s vibrator then you are right!

When your girlfriend uses the Ferrari of all vibrators, it’s hard to compete with it. She orgasms in literally 30 seconds and discovers that what she thought was an orgasm for her entire adult dating life really wasn’t–making you feel insignificant in bed.

Seriously, how can you compete? Now most vibrators are heat-sensored and most can plug into the wall–meaning it will NEVER tire out. NEVER.

Don’t be discouraged that the only way you can compete with the dreaded vibrator’s speed is by having a seizure or being electrocuted. There are ways around it. If you’re tired of being the fluffer for your girlfriend, here are some helpful tips to help guide to pleasuring your girlfriend like her vibrator.

Study Your “Enemy”

When she’s fast asleep after her multiple orgasms with her electronic buddy, turn it on and study it. You will realize that the dildo has nothing to do with orgasmic bliss. It’s all about the clitoral stimulator attached to it. It’s most likely shaped like some kind of zoo animal or sea mammal. You should always know your enemy before trying to defeat them.

Practice Your “Exercises”

In most cases, women tend to take a long time to orgasm through intercourse. That is why you need to perfect your speed and your technique before going “in.” Practice the “come hither” finger gesture when you’re by yourself. To practice your oral technique, eat a lot of ice cream cones. Fight off the numbing feeling in your tongue by continuing your “technique.” You have to build up the stamina to compete with IT.

“Rabbit” Speed

During the final stage of intercourse, the only way you’re going to stimulate her like her “little friend” does is to perfect your thrusting skills. To keep up, you must be able to thrust 2.5 times per second. This takes a lot of practice but if you have been studying your enemy and perfecting your techniques, you should be just fine.

Break It

When she’s at work, twist her vibrator until you hear a clicking noise. Scratch where the batteries should go to. You want her to think she tired the vibrator out so she doesn’t blame you. Considering how expensive they are, she probably won’t be getting a replacement anytime soon. Sometimes you have to play dirty to get what you want.

Who Is The Ultimate Jerry Dandridge?

At three years old, I had my first adult male crush and his name was Jerry Dandridge. Yup, I fell in “love” with a vampire.He didn’t sparkle in the sunlight because he was a bad ass creature of the night. All I had to do to see him was put in Fright Night in my father’s Betamax player and I was hooked for hours gazing at Chris Sarandon.

In spite of the fact that I clearly didn’t have much censorship from my parents, watching Fright Night was the catalyst for how I picked out my men–dark, tall, handsome with a hint of homosexual tendencies.

That’s why when I heard of the news about the Fright Night remake, I was livid by the fact of having my dream man re-cast—that was however before hearing about the unbelievable casting of Colin Farrell as Jerry Dandridge.

So the question is, who on paper makes for the ultimate Jerry Dandridge? Let’s weigh the pros and cons, shall we?

Smarts

Winner: Colin Farrell

I hate to say this, but I have to give this one to Colin Farrell. The vamp ingeniously blows up Charlie’s house because he was not invited into his home. (Seriously, why has it taken this long for a vampire to do that onscreen?) Chris Sarandon constantly ate naked prostitutes in front of his window and instead of moving when sunlight hit him, he just stood in one spot having a temper tantrum. Not very smart if you ask me.

Sex Appeal

Winner: Chris Sarandon

I have to give this one to Chris Sarandon. His dashing good looks, appealing walk (yes, walking can be appealing) and irresistible charm are timeless. Still to this day, I would want to tap that. (Chris Sarandon circa 1985 not now) Sure, Colin Farrell looks extremely sexy in the upcoming remake but anybody who addresses somebody as “Hey guy” or calls attractive women “ripe” is lame in my books.

Morals

Death to all peeping Toms!

Winner: Chris Sarandon

Sure Chris Sarandon went nuts by turning both Charlie’s girlfriend and best friend into vampires, but the man did give Charlie a chance for his safety when he demanded to be left alone. In the trailer for the remake, it doesn’t look like Colin Farrell has much mercy for Charlie after being “found out.” That’s not necessarily a bad thing after all. Bad boys are and will always be extremely hot.

Who Has Got The Bigger…Fangs?

I need Braces Stat!

Winner: Tie

Chris Sarandon showed off some mighty long fangs in the beginning of the cult classic. However, when he went “full out” vampire, it looked like he needed braces. We have yet to see if Colin Farrell goes “full” vampire in the remake. Curious to see how bad he looks. It can’t be any worse than how he looked in Horrible Bosses.

GayDar Alert

Winner(or Loser): Chris Sarandon

Chris Sarandon definitely takes the cake for the vamp with the most homosexual tendencies. I suspect his “housekeeper” Billy was doing more than just house keeping. Also, the fact that he constantly had a fruit in his hands is an amusing if not highly inappropriate giveaway.

My Personal Choice For The Ultimate Jerry Dandridge: Chris Sarandon

Like Sidney Prescott once so eloquently said in Scream 4: “Don’t f*ck with the original.”

Can You Orgasm From Junk Food?

When it comes to finding new adult dating topics, I am able to scour the net for generally common sex woes and issues. However, sometimes I find something so odd that I have to comment on for no other reason than the fact it is weird and absurd.

The UK daily star recently ran a story on a 500 pound Colorado woman who is continuing to gain weight because eating junk food literally gives her orgasm. (What a scary f*cking thought.)

Gabi Jones, 25, who supposedly has a rare condition called persistent genital arousal disorder binge eats on fatty food like chocolate and ice cream until she pops, and by pops I mean climax. (Again, another scary f*cking thought.)

When asked about how she first experienced her first junk food orgasm, this is what she had to say: “I loved the velvety texture of ice cream on my tongue. Then one day as I was tucking in I felt a tingle starting down below.”
“The pressure kept building until suddenly it swept through my body. I felt light-headed and flushed.”

It gets worse:

“My friends thought I was making it up. But from then on, every time I tucked into rich, creamy desserts the trembling and tingling began.”
“I went out and bought an ice-cream maker and soon I had knee-trembling orgasms whenever I wanted.”

Better yet, this “classy” lady has her own website called ‘gaininggabi’ and attracts thousands of aff members who pay money to watch her stuff her face with twinkies while orgasming at the same time.

Gabi, if you are reading this right now, I hope you know you are a fat f*cking pig. You are so disgusting that reading that article about you in the paper made me want to vomit.

It’s safe to say junk food should not make you orgasm and if you do, you should go on a diet and seek out a highly trained psychiatrist.

The Dark Side Of Beauty

Underneath all of the beauty, most of these powerful women have a ‘shadow’ or dark side.

This dark side is secretly wanting a man who is in control of himself, his reality, and them.

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But they’d never admit it – often not even to themselves.  But their unconscious knows and recognizes this desire as something that they want. They also hold a kind of inner CONTEMPT for the weak people (especially men) who give them everything they want, as is evidenced by the “Oh, he’s just a guy I use to buy me things and “He’s my ‘Boytoy’ kind of comments that women often make to their girlfriends.

On the topic of men giving gifts to women and buying them things: Many women will take what is available to them (even if they have to do a little manipulation for it), but they will ultimately resent and disrespect a man who gives too much to them.

As a matter of fact, to most hot women, THEIR REALITY is that men kiss up to them and give them what they ask for or demand (worst case, they have to get upset or act bitchy to get their way). AGAIN, THIS IS THEIR REALITY. Men who don’t fit this mold are often just tuned out as if they didn’t exist in order to keep this reality as pure as possible for them.

(Also, I think that many women harbor contempt for their beauty. At a shadow level, they are kept from living a real life and being closer to the real world simply because fewer and fewer people can relate to them in proportion to how ‘beautiful’ they are and make themselves. Addressing this topic when speaking to women is VERY powerful. More later.)

Men are often behaving like ass kissers because they are afraid that a woman might get upset and leave. The fact is that by acting this way, a woman is MORE likely to leave. It’s one of those paradoxes that’s a self-fulfilling prophesy. If a woman whines, a man might begin to think, “Oh, no... I need to kiss her ass or she might leave. Even though she’s being ridiculous, I have to go along with it...”

This is bad for her, for you, and for the relationship between you. Learn to never let a woman act like a Bratwithout you calling her on it (AND IN A COOL, ALMOST

INDIFFERENT WAY!)

This is very counter-intuitive, but again, we’re dealing with female human behaviour, which has roots and drives that are complex and often difficult to trace.

The solution is to NOT kiss ass or do things for them like everyone else. Be different. Expect them to pull their own weight, call them on all of their issues and messed-up behaviours just like you would a guy friend or family member (Use the same “you’re my friend and I’m saying this for your benefit” tone that you’d use with a friend), tease and make fun of their insecurities in a playful way, reframe other men who kiss their ass, and put beauty in a new light (as a curse, etc., how she can never have anyone see her for who she truly is, how every man she knows would sleep with her in a minute, and how it often leads to less inner fulfillment).

The fact is that women will sleep with rich men who kiss their asses and model-handsome guys who don’t treat them well to satisfy their PHYSICAL drives.

But overall, an average looking man who takes good care of himself and makes enough money to live comfortably who is cocky, direct, challenging, confident, funny, and in control - one who challenges her constantly and never kisses her ass EVER - will be FAR more fulfilling to a beautiful woman than the other types.

This difference is not only interesting to her, but it’s also challenging as well (something she doesn’t experience often). A man who does such will not only be able to win her body, but also her interest and fascination. It will also keep her messed up behaviours more in check while allowing you to stay more in control of the situation.

***Note: If any of this stuff sounds too far out for you, I recommend that you go out to a mall and find yourself a few really beautiful women. Then ask them to read the last few pages of this book and to tell you the accuracy of this material. If you’re a doubter, you won’t believe the responses you’ll get. I’ve asked many beautiful women about these ideas and almost EVERY ONE OF THEM has told me that this line of thinking is accurate.

You’ll also notice out in the real world that some fortunate men have the looks, fame, personality, or whatever that causes women to act naturally open and receptive to them.

If you’re one of these men, then congrats to you!

If you’re not one of these men (I’m not, so I understand what it’s like) then you have to LEARN how to get inside of a woman’s mind and heart and CAUSE her to start acting this way toward you. It may take a few minutes of conversation, or even up to an hour or so... but if you learn the skills that I’m going to teach you, you can learn how to cause women to act this way toward you, too.

Remember, attraction has different roads that lead to it. Some are easy shortcuts, but some take a little longer, present more challenges, and require more skill. But there is a structure to the process and if you learn that structure, you will be more successful.

It All Comes Down To Your Skills

Having a problem? You need a new skill.

If you have some area of your life that isn’t working for you, you probably need a new SKILL.

I realized a few years ago that most people look at themselves and say things like, “There must be something WRONG WITH ME. I don’t know why. I just can’t do it.”

But, in fact, the problem wasn’t something ‘wrong’ with them; the problem was that they needed to learn a new skill or a set of skills.

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Meeting women comes down to SKILLS. If you’re having a problem in a particular area, get new skills to deal with it. For instance, if you have learned to meet women and get phone numbers, you might start having them flake out on you and not show up for planned meetings. Solution: A new skill. You need to learn the skill of getting women to meet you after making plans.

There are many parts to being successful with women, and they all work together. You may already know some of them, you might learn a few more from this book, but if you’re missing a key (like how and when to kiss a woman, for instance) you’ll still keep running into challenges.

Remember, if you’re having a challenge, you need a skill. So remind yourself of this idea, come back to this book to get the information, and then practice until you have the SKILL!

I began by creating self-image exercises based on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Timeline Therapy, and doing them all the time. (Read “Frogs Into Princes” by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and “The Secret of Creating Your Future” by Tad James for more info.)

Here’s one exercise that’s helped me tremendously:

First, I close my eyes and imagine a picture of the person that I want to become. I imagine how I’ll be dressed, the expression on my face, how I’m standing... all the details. Then, I throw that picture up into the air and have it start raining copies of it all around me for as far as I can see... into my past and future... all around me. Exercises like these sometimes sound silly, but they help direct your mind towards the person that you want to become.

One area that I’ve studies extensively is what’s commonly called ‘internal dialogue’ or ‘self-talk’. This is simply the way that you talk to yourself inside your head.

Most people are talking to themselves all day long. But most people are talking NEGATIVELY to themselves instead of talking POSITIVELY. Negative self-talk is, in my opinion, one of the primary causes of low self-esteem, giving up, and a lack of interest in even trying.

If you tell yourself something enough times, you’ll begin to BELIEVE it. This new belief will take on a mind of its own and start creating its own self-talk.

Most people who have negative beliefs also have negative self-talk that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. If this is you, STOP RIGHT NOW.

I may be the first person that’s ever pointed this out to you, so it might sound a little strange. Or, I might be reminding you of something you already know. In any event, make a commitment to yourself to start talking positively to yourself and to be encouraging from now on. Put it on your calendar. Send yourself e-mails. Do whatever you have to do so you remember to be nice to yourself when you talk to yourself.

If you’re one of those people that likes being negative, arguing with everything, finding why things can never work for you, and why everyone is wrong, then do me and yourself a favor and delete this book from your hard drive and e-mail me to ask for a refund. You’ve made a choice to be negative with yourself, and I’m not even interested in helping you see a better way. People who have made the choice to be negative about everything are usually playing out a drama that’s beyond what I’m interested in addressing and probably beyond the power of this book to change.

If, on the other hand, you are one of the people who is willing to give new things a try and agree to begin saying things like, “I can do something if I choose to” and “I can change if I really want to”, then I think you will be successful.

The key here is to begin taking a positive mindset and talking to yourself in a positive way.

Here’s an exercise for you to do: Take out a piece of paper and  write down all the negative thoughts you have about yourself, all the negative things you say to

yourself, and all the areas where a ‘positive’ outlook would help you. Then, start writing down positive things you can say to yourself instead and begin saying them.

Keep working on this exercise until you stop saying negative things to yourself. This could take you years like it did for me. But it’s worth it, so trust me. This one process will improve all areas of your life, so use it everywhere.

It’s also important to make mental pictures and rehearse the success that you’d like to have. As you’re going to sleep, create mental movies of yourself being successful in different kinds of situations and with different types of women. Mental rehearsal is the next best thing to actually doing something, so do it as often as you can.

If you make a mental movie of the ideal you doing the things that I’m going to teach you and review in your mind every day, you will see improvement and results. If you don’t do this part, you’ll be wondering why you can’t seem to get it right when the opportunity comes along.

Be Different In An Attractive Way

By studying marketing and sales, I’ve learned that humans are attracted to things that are unique. They are also attracted to things that are superior. So I have a phrase that I use: “Different in a preferential way.” In the mating game, it pays to be different in an ATTRACTIVE way.

What I’m about to share with you is a group of ingredients. These are the different ingredients to which women are attracted. It’s up to you to take what you have and to use this list to augment your personality in such a way that it becomes attractive to the type of women with whom you’re interested. The key is to be different in an attractive way.

But make sure that you’re not too different! If you get too carried away with this idea, you’ll be outside of the realm of ‘normal’ and you will wind up hurting yourself. So experiment and test to see what works for you.

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The Underlying Motives

I think that it’s important to look at the differences between men and women from an objective perspective.

Remember that just about every thought and behaviour that a woman has, no matter how little sense it may make to you, has some positive intention behind it. Drama is often to get attention. Jealousy is often a way of protecting a relationship. Games are often used to make sure that a man is serious and willing to invest energy.

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So as you work to become more successful with women, remember not to take things personally. Don’t get discouraged if you encounter games, drama, and things that you don’t understand. It’s all part of the game.

I believe that underneath it all, men are usually trying to find women who will give them sex, and women are usually trying to find men who will give them loyalty and commitment. This has evolved over many millions of years, and these goals contain an obvious conflict of interest.

So just realize this conflict exists, and as you learn, remember to take it into consideration. And, of course, don’t take any of it personally. Men have been dealing with all of these same issues for a long, long time.

It’s A Game To Them

Women often view men picking up on them as a sort of game. They talk about it with each other, they have standard lines that they learn when you ask for their number such as, “Why don’t you give me YOUR number instead and I can call you...?” and so on.

I know that some, maybe even most women go out on weekends with the mindset of “I’m never going to meet Mr. Right at a club, but it boosts my ego to have men paying attention to me by the dozens, and I like to have free drinks... and I love to dance with my girlfriends and be a tease... and I love the power of shooting men down while pretending to be annoyed by it... etc.”

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Women Don’t Make Sense

I’m going to start off this whole shebang by giving you my take on women in general.

I know, I know. Every woman is a unique creature. But women have more commonalties than they have differences. So let’s start with what I think they have in

common and then we’ll move on to how they differ. (The ideas that I’m about to share with you here are from my own research, testing in the real world, and personal analysis).

For most men, a woman is like a Chinese puzzle inside of a brain twister.

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Much of their behaviour makes no sense at all (to men).

If there’s one thing that I’m clear about, it’s that most women THINK differently than most men, and most women want different things than most men.

This is hard for many men to grasp or understand, but it’s true. And the sooner you get a handle on what’s going on here, the sooner you’ll become more successful with women.

Let’s start by comparing what men and women are interested in. Have you ever stopped to think about what entertains women as a group compared to what entertains men as a group? Women buy Cosmopolitan magazines, watch soap operas, and read romance novels. Men buy Playboy, watch sports, and read the paper.

Hey, wait a minute here! What’s in those Cosmos, soaps, and romance novels? And why are women so attracted to them? And why is it that when men try to watch a soap

opera or read a romance novel all they can say is, “I don’t get it...”?

I’ll tell you why. It’s because women’s brains are wired differently from men’s brains. That’s why. And by telling you about what attracts women’s attention, I’ve also given you a clue about how to attract them to YOU.