Dating, No Marriage

Sometimes single people aren’t looking for marriage and just want to date casually with no strings attached. Those people often get accused of being serial daters or players when nothing could be further from the truth. They honestly just aren’t looking to get serious again at that moment. Some may be recovering from a divorce and others are just getting over a serious relationship that ended. They’re not necessarily jaded or angry or anything, they may just not be read to get into anything serious just yet. There’s nothing wrong with these people or their choice to not get too serious. Actually, they’re pretty smart because they’ve figured out what they need and why, and they’re going after it no matter what anyone else thinks about it.

For many of us singles, we’re not interested in getting married again. We would love to have a good romantic relationship, and we’re on all kinds of dating websites looking for just that. We’re just not interested in it turning into marriage. Many of us have been married and divorced, and we’re not interested in doing it again for a lot of reasons. Whether we have been married or not, we’ve all watched friends or co-workers go through horrible divorces, and many of us don’t want to ever go through that. Financially, it could be a dangerous prospect to get married and divorced, and for those of us in our mid-40′s, it’s getting a little late in our lives to be financially devastated by a bad marriage or an even worse divorce. Everyone has seen other people lose half their pension or retirement savings in a divorced when they’re too old to recoup their losses, and many of us that are in that age group are afraid to take that chance.

Meanwhile, many of us also realize that we can have sex and fun without marriage, and probably more sex and fun if we don’t get married. Our serious relationships can be very fulfilling and rewarding without making things permanent. We’re enjoying our lives and having a great time dating and being single. We don’t feel any need for anything more than that. That doesn’t make us bad people or serial daters or anything like that. We’re just people that know what we want.

There are a lot of implications to getting married these days, and many people, male and female, see it as completely unnecessary. Women that have gotten out of bad marriages feel like they would somehow be giving up their freedom again. Some people just enjoy the total freedom of being able to date whomever they want and have sex with whomever they choose at any given moment. Many of us no longer expect our romantic relationships to last forever, and have no problem with that concept. Unfortunately, names like ‘serial dater’ have been invented to pass judgment on those of us who simply want to date without the need for a serious relationship being on the agenda. As long as we’re honest about what we’re looking for, why should we be called derogatory names? Many of us aren’t trying to hurt anyone, we simply enjoy our lives exactly the way they are and want to keep them that way.

The Best Sex Positions For Mind Blowing Orgasms

Do perfect sex positions actually exist? The answer is yes! Take your time to find the best angles for both you and your e mistakes couples make using sex positions: There are hundreds of sex positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each. So, what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions? You need to explore all aspects of sexuality about eachother. Cultivate an adventurous spirit, turn foreplay into a game, add a prop or two.

There are literally hundreds of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling, rather than just trying new sex positions. And we all know how important sex is in the adult dating world.

How To Dirty Talk Like The Smurfs

Yesterday, I had to endure one of the most excruciating films any adult can sit through and if you guessed The Smurfs, you are correct! The only thing I found remotely enjoyable of this puke-inducing film was that the smurfs were prone to using the word ‘smurf” for curse words. These little smurfers didn’t give a smurf when it came to their potty mouths. And why should they? They come from a town that gang-smurfs Smurfette probably on an everyday basis. (Seriously, why is there only ONE female smurf? That thought disturbs me.)

It got me thinking about how it would be like to dirty talk like the smurfs do. Read the following phrases and practice them at home for fun or if you can’t say the real words because you’re in front of your children. Have a xxx smurfing good time!

I love the taste of your smurf. It tastes so smurfing good.
Never stop smurfing me!
I want to suck your big smurfing smurf.
I want your smurf so bad, you’re giving me blue smurfs.
I want you to smurf all over me. Smurf on my face!
Flick my smurf! Finger my smurf too. Oh yeah, that feels so smurfing good.
Oh smurf! Oh smurf! Oh Smurf!
Smurf me harder!
I want to bust my smurf berry all over you.
Use Your Smurf on me.
Say my name smurf!
Who’s Your Papa Smurf?
No smurf has ever been inside this deep.
Do you want me to put my smurf in your smurf?
Smurf me like a cowgirl!
I’m going to smurf you and smurf you until you smurf.
I love it when you nibbles on my smurfs.
Don’t you dare smurf until I say you can smurf!
I’m going to smurf you like a lollipop.
Do you like the way I smurf you, baby?
Make me scream like the naughty smurfette I am!
Smurf yourself. Let me watch.
I want you to smurf in my mouth.
Play With My Smurf!
Maybe You should smurf me, I’ve been really bad.
You can have any smurfhole you want.
Smurf me in the smurf! I can take it!
I want to smurf you. I want to smurf you like I never smurfed anybody before.

What Are The Signs Your Ex Still Likes You?

Either you have kicked him out or he has shown you the door. Whatever the case may be, you have found yourself at an impasse with your adult ex lover. After a breakup, it can feel like your adult dating life is over. However, if your ex-partner is still in love with you, you may be able to revive your relationship. Even if there is no spoken communication, the non-verbal signals will tell you whether your former flame still likes you

Patience Is Key

If you’re upset with your partner, space and time will give you a chance to reflect on the relationship. If you tell your partner you need some space, and he or she gives it to you, chances are that your partner may still care about you. When you ask for something that you know your partner does not agree with, but she is willing to go along with your decision, that may be an indicator that she still has strong feelings for you. Note when your ex gives you the time, space or other need without you having to ask for it.

Presents

A thoughtful gift is another indicator that your ex is still in love with you. While a common gesture for a man is to give a woman flowers, other, more meaningful gifts such as engraved jewelry, a trip to a favorite hangout may suggest that your partner still has hope for the relationship. The more thought put into a gift, the more special it is. Gifts don’t have to be expensive to show that you care for and respect the recipient.

Looks

If your ex gets all dolled up to see you, she may still love you. While it may seem like a simple gesture, even a spritz of cologne or perfume can suggest that you ex cares enough about their appearance in your presence. Do you see your ex adjusting her outfit, running their hands through their hair or making other minor corrections to their appearance in your presence? If they cares about how they look, and they used to look like a slouch, they might be showing they still loves you.

Physical Connection

It may not involve hugging and kissing, but a gentle squeeze on the hand, pat on the back or playful punch on the shoulder can suggest that he or she still has strong feelings for you. When you hang out with your ex and he finds a way to casually touch you from time to time, they could be saying they still are attracted to you. If you notice that your ex touches you and only you when you are hanging out with a group of friends, that can be an indicator that there are still strong feelings.

How To Talk To Women

Dating and chatting with girls may seem easy for some men, but a lot of guys end up getting it all wrong. You may think you are having a seemingly good conversation with a woman that you like, but from her perspective, you were boring. In the he wrong thing and getting rejected that they end up holding back and don’t actually show a women who they are and how much fun they can be. Learning to be ourself and letting go of what you think you should be is a way to show strength and confidence. When you learn to have real conversations with girls, you’ll find that instead of looking for girls, the girls are looking for you.

Are High School Sweethearts Romantic Or Tragic Figures?

We all have a couple of friends that make our adult dating lives look pathetic and those friends are the “high school sweetheart” couples. They seem to have it all. They have a wonderful family and most likely a perfectly decorated home that makes the green-eyed monsters come out in all of us who did not have the fortunate luck of finding the one in high school. Looking at them makes us wish the DeLorean time machine was real so we can travel 88mph back to the past to wipe our slate clean of past romantic indiscretions. You would be naive to think that these seemingly happy high school sweetheart do not wish for the same thing.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are many adult people that have married and lived with their high school sweetheart for years and lead normal and happy lives. Unfortunately, there are so many more that are living co-dependent lives are stuck by the familiarity, security and comfort their seemingly stable relationships bring.

If I could back in time and make things different with my high school boyfriend, I would resent my decision deeply. It doesn’t matter that I would be saving myself from the many painful and humiliating sexual and romantic failures that would later occur in my life. Breakups and heartache are life lessons everybody needs to go through especially at a young age. It is only through our failures and mistakes in which we learn how to grow up and find the one who is truly compatible for us.

Imagine how your high school sweetheart friends feel behind closed doors. Do you think the notion of not having their hearts broken does not affect them in some way? Do you think that may be their houses are so decorated because they really want their friends and family to think they have it all together, when really they don’t?

Relationships are full of deception and most people go through their entire lives pretending to have something they really don’t. So the next time you see your friends that have been married since forever, don’t compare their relationship to yours. Having your heart broken and moving on means you have the courage to experience everything this world has to offer. Having courage is the only way of finding the one you’re supposed to be with.

Silence

Sometimes there is nothing better in the entire world than a nice chunk of silence. We all tend to talk way too much these days as we are so interconnected, dialed in, and in touch with everything going on around us at every single moment of every single day. Many of us have forgotten how to be quiet, even just for a moment or two. When we make use of the Xxx personals, we can connect with all sorts of fantastic people to date, to chat with, to begin a new romance with, or of course to have wild and hot sex with. We may even find ourselves in a situation or two where no words are required, can you imagine that.

Today, between all of our social networking sites and the constant barrage of information that we face from the media, it is one of the most difficult things imaginable to be able to find and enjoy a few moments of solace in absolute quiet. It seems as though even in a supposedly dead quiet library, there is enough going on to disturb our peace and distract us when we are so desperately trying to concentrate. We have also lost the ability to sit with someone and not talk, so the idea of a nice quiet car or train ride has become a thing of the past.

With a little luck though, there is still one area of our lives in which we have a shot at some degree of quiet, and that is when we are having sex with someone. Yes, there should be some heavy breathing, some moaning, and maybe even a little bit of dirty talk to keep things hot, but in an ideal sexual encounter there will be no conversation whatsoever. Doesn’t that just sound like paradise? Not only do we get laid but we also get to enjoy a little peace and quiet in the bargain.

Pros and Cons of "Double-Dating"

Should you spend your precious leisure time with another couple, or is it better to go out on the town à deux? A relationship expert examines the positives and negatives of making it a foursome.

Dr. Jane Greer, a marriage and family therapist in New York City and host of the radio show Doctor On Call, gives the pros and cons of spending oh-so-precious "date nights" with another couple. Is it the best use of that babysitter expenditure? You be the judge.

The Pros:

• The "fun burden" isn't all on you. "When you're out socializing with another couple, you don't have to work so hard to keep the conversation going," Greer notes. "You're not as responsible for the mood, either."

• It keeps things light. "If other people are around, you and your partner will be less liable to bring up serious issues that might sour the evening," Greer says.

• It turns "him" and "me" into "we." "In other words, you become a unit," Greer says. "That can really reinforce your marital bond, especially if you share stories about happy times."

• It's stimulating. "A husband and wife often get into the rut of having the same conversations over and over, about kids, in-laws, whatever," Greer says. "Socializing with another couple changes that tune and gets you talking about topics that aren't run of the mill for you."

• It encourages you to make an effort with your appearance. "When it's just the two of you, you might let your looks slide and just wear something comfortable," Greer observes. "But if you're meeting another couple, you'll put extra effort into looking good, and that can spice up your marriage."

The Cons:

• You could miss an opportunity to carve out some much-needed private time. "If you always go out with another couple, you might get lost in the foursome," Greer notes. "In other words, you could get so caught up in social interaction that you lose sight of the 'we.' If that happens, your intimacy may suffer. It's all about finding a balance. While it's great to go out with another couple occasionally, 'double dating' shouldn't be your standard night out. It should be an accent, not your steady diet. You need quality time to yourselves!"

• You could get stuck in a different kind of rut. "If you 'double date' with the same couple again and again, you'll wind up falling into a [boring] routine with them as well," Greer says. "The whole idea is to shake things up and create something new and refreshing. So mix it up and go out with different couples!"



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