We all have a couple of friends that make our adult dating lives look pathetic and those friends are the “high school sweetheart” couples. They seem to have it all. They have a wonderful family and most likely a perfectly decorated home that makes the green-eyed monsters come out in all of us who did not have the fortunate luck of finding the one in high school. Looking at them makes us wish the DeLorean time machine was real so we can travel 88mph back to the past to wipe our slate clean of past romantic indiscretions. You would be naive to think that these seemingly happy high school sweetheart do not wish for the same thing.
Now don’t get me wrong, there are many adult people that have married and lived with their high school sweetheart for years and lead normal and happy lives. Unfortunately, there are so many more that are living co-dependent lives are stuck by the familiarity, security and comfort their seemingly stable relationships bring.
If I could back in time and make things different with my high school boyfriend, I would resent my decision deeply. It doesn’t matter that I would be saving myself from the many painful and humiliating sexual and romantic failures that would later occur in my life. Breakups and heartache are life lessons everybody needs to go through especially at a young age. It is only through our failures and mistakes in which we learn how to grow up and find the one who is truly compatible for us.
Imagine how your high school sweetheart friends feel behind closed doors. Do you think the notion of not having their hearts broken does not affect them in some way? Do you think that may be their houses are so decorated because they really want their friends and family to think they have it all together, when really they don’t?
Relationships are full of deception and most people go through their entire lives pretending to have something they really don’t. So the next time you see your friends that have been married since forever, don’t compare their relationship to yours. Having your heart broken and moving on means you have the courage to experience everything this world has to offer. Having courage is the only way of finding the one you’re supposed to be with.