If you have watched any R-rated movie with Angelina Jolie, you would be tricked into believing that every couple that has an argument or beats each other up is destined to have wild and passionate sex afterwards. However, how often does that truly happen in your own adult dating life?
90% of the time, fights and arguments rarely are rewarded with mind-blowing orgasms afterwards. In fact, most times couples don’t even want to look at each other, let alone have their genitals touch. If you’re living with your partner and you have a fight, most times somebody is spending the night on the couch or at a friend’s house to get away from their partner that is driving them crazy…and not in the good way.
Forget dirty talk, nail scratching and blowfish-sized hickeys when you’re having a fight with a lover that is as stubborn as you are. The silent treatment can last for days until one person breaks their vow of silence just so the fighting will come to an end. Thankfully once you’re speaking to one another again, hugs kisses and love-making resumes. However, is sex after a cooling off period really the same as “make up sex?”
Based upon what we learned from films, soap operas and trashy magazines, “make up sex” is supposed to be far more intense than a normal romp in the sack with your significant other. Anger is a key attribute to the passion and fear of losing your partner is also said to be responsible for the level of intensity “make up sex” brings. Although, what draws the line from “back to normal sex” and “make up sex?”
The key factor in make up love-making is the timeframe. Unless the fight was fresh, it’s not considered to be “make up sex.” However, is this a healthy thing to happen in your relationship? Yes and no.
If rarely done, make up sex can be full of passion and sparks and can help sustain intimacy during rough patches and dry spells in your relationship. It’s only human to feel a little turned on after an argument and in the heat of an argument, your levels of dopamine and adrenaline rise, making you feel aroused and excited.
Unfortunately, there are couples out there that only get a rush from this kind of sex and will sabotage their relationship by creating fights just so they can get off.
Make-up sex does occur in relationships from time to time, and once in a blue moon it can really help bring the spark back. Just don’t think you’ll look like Angelina Jolie when you’re doing it.