I know what you thinking: How can withdrawing from sex possibly help your adult dating life? Once you are in a committed relationship, the anticipation and yearnings start to fade after a while. You know every thrust timed down to a millisecond and the orchestrated orgasm moans start to sound as familiar as a laugh track on a Friends episode.
You can read all the Cosmo magazines you want, but the only way to truly reignite the spark in a monogamous relationship is to simply refrain from doing it for a short amount of time that is.
To do this, set a sex strike date to your relationship and inform your partner that the metaphorical chastity belt is going on for at least a week. In this week, you must test your limits and find ways on how not to give into temptation and here are some fun ways on how to do so:
1. Talk About Sex
Just because your loins are on lockdown, doesn’t mean your lips have to be. Leave your significant other dirty and explicit notes and texts on how much you can’t wait for the expiry date of your sex strike and them what you plan on doing to them in the near future. Tease your partner by calling them in the middle of the day and reassure them that you plan on keeping your sexual promises to them. By keeping your mind engaged, your bodies will be aching for each other like it was the first time again.
2.Take Time To “Love” Yourself
Bring out the AA batteries and hand lotion because during this week, it’s imperative you take care of yourself. You won’t be re-igniting the spark if you only last two seconds in bed after a lengthy sex strike, so take this time out to engage in some fairly arousing solo play. Do things you wouldn’t normally do. Watch some racy adult films and experiment by buying a new vibrating toy. Make sure your partner knows what you’re doing so they can feel guilt-free from taking care of themselves as well.
3.Bone Up On Your Studies
Take this time off to do some extra xxx credit at home by going to your local bookstore and reading erotic books on sex positions, Kama sutra and the art of Tantra. You can even take a class or workshop to help improve your skills as a lover. Practice makes perfect and when your sex strike is off, you can surprise your partner with everything that you learned.
If you do everything on this list, then your sex strike will only be full of rewards and your sex life should be right on track again! Good luck!