We tend to ignore what is at the end of our nose. We tend not to notice sometimes just how attractive our best friend is, simply because they are our best friend. We sometimes don’t even realize our best qualities; too busy trying to cultivate others. In the deep sea of possibility afforded us now by our portable gadgets and constant access to information, people, interests and even fetishes we as much eschew the simple as we do what is commonplace to us.
When dating sometimes we impose a penance, an almost self-flagellant trial-and-error into our search because we come to see, sometimes, that getting too easy can’t be as good as wanting hard. We make trouble and obstacles when we don’t need to, especially culling as we can dates and lovers easy from on-line dating sites.
And we sometimes won’t take the simple easy step to consider people close to us, possibly
They invite more pain and turmoil then anyone into S&M ever does!
It’s ironic that what we want is facility, speed and possibility but when we are faced with it we still mistrust the speed and accuracy with which we sometimes can get what we want. We join countless adult dating sites but a lot of the failure is us simply not returning inbox messages or giving-up when there are too many people to pursue when a large population is what attracted us to the site in the first place!
We become lazy, we become jaded, we become addicted to the quick fix even if we don’t trust it. In the end what makes us suffer the most, and what we ultimately want, is not knowing what we really want or how to get it.