Friday 6 April 2012

Want A Better Sex Life? You Don't Have To Break Up To Get It

Sex is an essential part of every intimate relationship and without it, your relationship can suffer. Whether you’re just having a dry spell, or you’ve realized that you and your dating partner aren’t physically compatible, it’s no fun when the sex is bad. Should you suffer through subpar sex as long as everything else is okay? Believe it or not, if you’re willing to put in some effort on your own part, you may find you will have to do neither.

Does bad sex equal a break up? If the sex is bad and you’re not that compatible overall, then it makes sense to break up. If everything else in your relationship is good, you can’t let a bad sex life ruin things for you. If you’re not having sex at all, you should just flat out address the decision. Work with your mate to get back into the habit of having more sex. Tell them that you miss having it because you really enjoy it. But, don’t be pushy. The thing about sex is that the more you have it, the more you want it. Over a few weeks you should find yourself getting back into the swing of things.

Give your partner pointers: What if you are having sex, but it’s just terrible?The next time you’re doing the deed, playfully suggest that you try something new, act like it’s an adult fantasy of yours. Partners want to satisfy you, so they should be open to receiving a few gentle pointers when you’re in the heat of the moment. Be careful not to be critical of what they’re doing wrong. Just steer them away from whatever it is they’re doing bad. If subtle hints don’t work, you may want to sit down and have a serious discussion about it

Communication is the most important tool you have : When it comes to having better sex, communication is key. If you can handle things diplomatically, you will probably get the results you want. Keep the mood light and word things as kindly as possible. If there are positive things your partner does, point them out, Compliment them where you can and negative remarks wont seem as hurtful. If you both really care about each other, you will find a way to make it work.